Identity – by Jaret Grossman

One thing changes us, one thing. And that’s who we perceive ourselves to be. So I don’t care if you have to play mind ticks with yourself about where you came from or what genetics you’re born with or what skills you actually have. But its all about the culture that’s set within. See, its January first and you’ve got these resolutions right, well lets break down that word.

What are you trying to resolve? Whats in conflict? Well whats in conflict is, who you are right now is not who you want to be, or who you need to be, for that matter. See there’s a gap, and you have to understand that gap and you need to close it. How do you close it? Well first you make a decision. You decide right here right now, that you’re no longer going to keep up with this set of rituals that you’ve created for yourself. And your not going to call it “a set of rituals.” No no no no no.

You know it as sleeping nine and a half ours, as hitting the snooze button three times before you wake up, as checking facebook every time you hit your computer. But make no mistake about it, if you’re doing it every single day, then its a culture. Its a routine that you’ve set for yourself, and its about creating a new tone. Its about creating a new standard. Its about creating a new way of life.

So you decide to make a new pattern and you take action with it and you stay committed to it. Because you’re going to get pumped up, you’re gonna get excited, you’re gonna be energetic to wright down those resolutions or to make goals, to make that initial decision. But whats left after that energy fades? And I promise you it will fade.

Whats left is you. The measure of the man, the measure of the woman. Beyond the smoke, behind the mirrors, what is left is you. Your effort, when the energy fades do you stay true to your word? Because your word is your bond. You made a promise, are you going to stick to that pact?

Decision, action, and commitment. That’s what forms a new identity. Because that’s the one thing that changes us. See, politics aside, Marcus Luttrell made up in his mind that he wasn’t going to die on that mountain top. He knew in his heart of hearts that he wasn’t going to go out that way. That’s how you can get through broken bones. That’s how Michael Jordan is able to have, what most people would call a “career game,” with the flu. That’s how Michael Phelps wins his seventh medal by one one-hundredth of a second.

He is getting dominated the entire race, his hands are all the way back just before the other guy is going to touch the wall – and before you can blink, he is able to touch the wall. That’s not motivation, that’s not passion, that’s not skill, that’s not even desire. That’s not wanting it more than the other person – that’s identifying with something so deep. That’s something resonating inside you that says “I do not lose. This is who I am. And there is no alternative, this is how its going to be.”

And that’s when you change long term. See you’ve got weak parts, and you’ve got strong parts. Its about which one you’re going to reinforce. See Kobe Bryant, he knew he had to divide himself. He had to separate his personal struggles from when he stepped onto the court, that’s why he created the Black Mamba. You’ve got weak parts and you’ve got strong parts, that you’ve got to be able to flip the switch and know when the ruthless, competitive, that killer instinct is going to come out.

This new identity that you formed for yourself, who do you see yourself as?

Who do you really see yourself as?

Because when that changes, then the mechanics change.

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Your Gift

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10:45 p.m., Christmas Eve… Don’t stop fighting.

It’s almost time to open that gift.

See many of us, we give up, right before we reach that last step.

We start to listen to the echos, of the doubters.

We start to listen to the echos, of the people who don’t even believe in themselves.

Young King,

You literally got to see it, before its in your hands.

You want to jump to different careers, when at the end of the day, your gift is your career.

Don’t let that person convince you to go up another flight of stairs, when your dream and your gift is four steps away.

We got to get it.

They aint see nothing in us. They saw us as trash that they walk passed on the ground.

But God got a funny way, he got a funny way of lifting you up.

Lifting that trash from the ground, breathing air into the dust, and taught it into man.

Placing a crown on his head.

For me, he took a man on the side of a Tokyo gas station.

No money, no cellphone, no hope.

And he lift me up, and he told the world,

“Watch my son shine!”

Young King,

You got greatness in you.

We come from the bottom, but we wont stay there.

Let’s become everything they told us we couldn’t. Let’s become everything they can never see.

And let’s become everything they want to be.

No matter where you start, don’t you ever quit on your dream.

Because you might just be that person, leaving your gifts down stairs under the tree,

And God already wrote your name on it.

Go claim what belongs to you.

No matter what hits you in life, no matter who leaves you, no matter who walks away,

Continue to fight for your gift under that tree.

I got plenty of men who watch me do what I do,

And they look at me like “I cant believe it.”

But what I whisper to them, with everything in my heart, I tell them,

“It was never meant for you to see. It was never meant for you to understand.”

Understand that tears are necessary. Understand that pain is necessary.

They wont give you nothing. You’re gonna have to earn it.

So just like when you walk into your momma’s room, 10:45 p.m. Christmas eve,

And you say “Momma, can i please open a gift?”

She say,

“No baby, you gotta wait, you gotta wait til the morning.

But I promise, if you can lay down, and you can toss and turn a little bit longer,

In the morning, you’ll see the best gift you ever seen in your life.”

Kings,

Its 10:45 p.m. Christmas Eve.

Stay strong. Stay steady.

And enjoy the gifts in the morning.

Galileo V

Mallory: I spoke to my dad, I’m sorry about Galileo.

Sam: They’ve got a lot of tests they can still try.

Mallory: How much is it going to cost to try them?

Sam: Don’t start with me.

Mallory: I’m asking as a taxpayer. It costs $165 million to lose the thing, how much more money is it going to cost to make sure you’re never going to find it?

Sam: I don’t know Mallory but we certainly won’t divert any municipal tax dollars which are always best spent on new hockey arenas.

Mallory: No, its better spent feeding, and housing, and educating.

Sam: There are a lot of people in the world Mal and none of them are hungry because we went to the Moon. None of them are colder and certainly none of them are dumber because we went to the Moon.

Mallory: And we went to the Moon, do we really have to go to Mars?

Sam: Yes!

Mallory: Why?

Sam: Because its next. Because we came out of the cave – and we looked over the hill and we saw fire. And we crossed the ocean, and we pioneered the West and we took to the sky. The history of man is hung on a timeline of exploration and this is whats next.

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