Uncomfortable vs Exhaustion

So you want to be successful huh? Well there’s one thing in this world that has the ability to change our whole life in an instant. You know what it is? Its action. So first step, you just need to make a decision.

Ask yourself this, a year from now, five years from now, what are you going to wish you did today? The secret to getting ahead in this world is first getting started. You can’t let fear stand in the way of your dreams. You cannot think “Oh what if this doesn’t work?” If you believe enough in the process and the end result, success is going to come to you. It will. You just got to be willing to see it through to the end. But first you just got to jump in the deep end man; and once something goes into motion it stays in motion. The process itself feeds the fire. You can’t be trapped by fear. Limits like fears, they’re illusions. Disregard them. If you’re passionate about it and you go full throttle, there is no doubt: you are going to be good at it.

Because what makes someone good at something? Its dedication, hard work, and its doing it with the proper direction and methodology. So if you plug away you are going to be good.

But what makes someone a professional at something? Its the concept of taking that little idea, that little decision you make, and executing to take it as far as your imagination holds. Dedicating every breath in your body to that single cause. Seeing the grand picture at the end of the road to be the absolute best. And not settling for any reason. Its not talent, its not innate ability, it simply comes down to how hungry you are.

How hungry are you to improve? How big is your appetite for success? What are you willing to do to reach your dreams?

The professionals, the best at their craft, they don’t care about the naysayers. They don’t care about the fun they are foregoing. They don’t take days off. They are one hundred percent set in their ways in perfecting their craft. Because its all for a much larger purpose than any semblance of happiness that immediate gratification provides. Reaching your goal? Well thats just pure bliss.

The higher the expectations, the larger the goal? Well the feeling just magnifies. So whats the difference between you and them? The professionals, they are the ones who are willing to knock on the doors of complete exhaustion every single day. Now let me define exhaustion for you.

Exhaustion is at that very point where its just so damn painful that you just can’t push anymore. That it hurts so bad that you cannot even think straight. Its in reaching that point when deep down, you know, that you did absolutely everything in your power. That there wasn’t one more thing you  could have done. So whats the difference between them and you?

What are you doing at this present moment in time? Ask yourself this: Are you moving closer towards your goals, or are you moving further away from them? Are you knocking on those doors of exhaustion, or are you just comfortable? You see, being uncomfortable is not exhaustion. Being uncomfortable is your mind quitting before your body. Being uncomfortable is just saying no to trying again. Achieving greatness happens when you are willing to do something that will kill you just to make you better.

You see, its easier to buy the ticket to see the game then it is to be the one to prepare for it. Its easier to hang out with your friends then it is to hang with the stairs for an hour. Its easier to sleep in then it is to wake up to a hundred sprints. Its easier to go to a party then it is to go ass to the grass in squats. Its easier to watch athletes from the couch then it is to be the one hoisting the trophy.

But its also a lot easier to look back on your life and know you gave it your all then it is to live with regrets. Not living up to your potential… Well that weighs on your shoulders for a life time.

No one said that being successful was going to be easy. But I will tell you one thing, it sure as hell is worth it. You are your own maker in your world, and there is no such thing as failure. You just got to tell it, “No. Not this time. Not with me.” I’m going to try again, and again, and again, and I’m going to look failure straight in thew face and I’m going to tell it that I am willing to go through all of the struggles to reach my dreams. Because without struggle there is never going to be any progress. Its all in how bad you want it.

How big is your appetite for success? Do you just want a bite, or are you starving out there for it?

Stay empty. Stay driven. Stay hungry.

–Jaret Grossman–


Lion or Gazelle?

Eric Thomas was asked to speak to

high school all american football players about having a sound mind and sound body…

This camp is not about you coming and putting on a shirt that says, “Sound Mind. Sound Body.” That’s not what this camp is about. This camp is you leaving and possessing – possessing! Everything they teach you, you taking it with you. You’re not just here to hear it – you’re not just here to hear it! You’re not just here to meet coaches, you’re not just here to get in the environment. You are here for everything Guy just told you, all the core things he told you about a sound mind — everything coach Antonio just told you — everything you heard, everything you see, you are supposed to take that! You take it with you and you embody it! You become the essence of everything they talked about and poof! You are going to automatically put yourself on a whole other level.

Some of you, you’re a beast! … until its uncomfortable. You’re a beast! … when the weather is right. You’re a beast! … when coach tell you to do something that you’re comfortable with. You’re a beast! … when you’re playing your position. You’re a beast! … When everything is going right. But sometimes stuff starts happening where it is uncomfortable and you start to break. You start to bend, you start to fold!

And what he told little man was, “You got to learn to become comfortable with being uncomfortable.” It aint always going to be the way you like; its not always going to be comfortable. The conditions aint always going to be perfect but if you want this – if you really want this – you gotta learn to sacrifice. You got to learn to give up to go up.

Some of ya’ll, there is some stuff when you leave this place… to make it to the next level there is some stuff you’re going to have to give up. Some people you are going to let go of, some habits you’re going to have to let go of, are you hearing what I am telling you? There’s some stuff you are going to have to give up, are you hearing me? There’s some stuff you’re going to have to sacrifice, some people you’re going to have to let go, some things you’re going to have to let go, some mind sets you’re going to have to let go of to get to that next level.

The thing that scares me about this room right here, is that you all got the same dream, but only a few of you are going to make it become a reality. The person with the strong mind and the strong body is the person that’s — listen to me very closely, this is what bothers me. I’m sitting in a room where everybody’s dreams can’t be a reality. Everybody who is playing the same position, ya’ll can’t all go to the same school – somebody is going to out beat somebody. Somebody is going to out do somebody, somebody is going to be the gazelle and somebody is going to be the lion. Somebody is going to walk out of here and say, “Everything I heard –” you going to take it and you’re going to apply it! You’re going to be a different person, you are going to operate different. Coach aint even going to know who you are – your parents aint going to know who you are! You’re going to shock yourself and surprise yourself!

When I was in Cairo, Egypt talking to ten thousand people it shocked me, I couldn’t believe it! High school drop-out, West side of Detroit, 8 Mile and Braile… in Cairo, Egypt. When I went to Australia: Sydney, Melbourne, Brisbane, I’m like “Yo, I’m from Detroit. By the grace of god, god’s mercy I am here!” I had a strong mind, a strong body; I started studying, I started putting in the work and I realized somebody else is trying to do exactly what I am trying to do.

Are you a gazelle? Or are you a lion? Are you a gazelle or are you a lion? And let me tell you the difference between a gazelle and a lion. When a gazelle wakes up it runs, but if a lion aint chasing it… it stops running. But when the lion wakes up… it don’t need nobody to push it, it pushes itself. Why? Because he realizes that if he does not catch that gazelle, not only him but his family don’t eat.

What are you playing this game for? What’s your passion? What’s your drive? What’s your purpose? What’s your purpose for playing this game? Why are you doing what you are doing? And when you know why you are doing what you are doing — you saw my t-shirt: “No Alarm Clock Needed. My Passion Wakes Me Up.” I got up at three o’clock this morning. No clock! I aint used the clock in twenty years, my passion wakes me up! My drive wakes me up. My determination wakes me up. My ability to be, do and have whatever I want, it wakes me up!

What wakes you up!? What drives you!? Why are you playing this game!? Is it just a game!? Or do you eat it, do you sleep it, do you drink it!? Have you possessed the game!? Do you want to change the game!?

I’m sitting with a D1 basketball player this morning, freshman, he pulled out a piece of paper and he showed me twenty goals: what he wants to accomplish in Big Ten. Eighteen year old kid, twenty goals! I asked him “Why you got these goals?” He said, “Because right now, my mama aint eating. Right now… Right now, my grandma, I can’t afford to buy her a drink of water. But I guarantee you next year this time, I’ll make my mark.” I said, “Ooh. I feel sorry for all the guards that got to come up against this kid.”

From this day forward! (From this day forward!)I will give a hundred and twenty percent! (I will give a hundred and twenty percent!) Or nothing at all! (Or nothing at all!) Strong Mind! (Strong Mind!) Strong Mind! (Strong Mind!) Strong Mind! (Strong Mind!) From this day forward! (From this day forward!) I will give a hundred and twenty percent! (I will give a hundred and twenty percent!) Or nothing at all! (Or nothing at all!) Strong Mind! (Strong Mind!) Strong Mind! (Strong Mind!) Strong Mind! (Strong Mind!) Strong Body! (Strong Body!)


Mental Fitness

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Just like you can train your body to improve its physical fitness, you can train your mind to improve your mental fitness, your emotional fitness, your mental toughness.

If you don’t know who Dan Gable was, he was probably the best athlete coach combo of all time. He went undefeated in high school and in college he was undefeated up until his very last match, the NCAA finals, which was the only loss of his career which agonizes him to this day. But as revenge, most people would crumble after that and he was distraught after that, but he mustered up the willpower to become an even better wrestler. And he didn’t let up a point in the Olympics while winning six straight matches. That will probably never be done again. In coaching, his coaching career, he won fifteen NCAA titles out of twenty one years coaching. That is unheard of.

Anyway, his training was unprecedented and allowed him to carry this mentality over into his good coaching career; that’s why he was so successful. According to his logs he hit the outlier’s mastery-which is Malcom Gladwell’s ten thousand hour theory-when he was a freshman in high school. He would run to class with ankle weights on his ankles, and he would have a rope in his hand and during class he would do isometrics. And he did this every day, not just once. He would train seven hours a day seven days a week. He would push himself to the point where he would cry because of the pain, and his teammates said that they had to carry him out of the wrestling room. He used to consider his team practices as sort of his warmups – that he would make the coaches and heavyweight wrestlers stay after.

Lou Banach, who was one of his wrestlers when he was coaching, who was a national champion, said the toughest part of his collegiate career was waking up at six a.m. to wrestle Dan Gable – and this was when he was coaching, he wasn’t even competing at this point. And Banach, who is a gold medalist in his own right, tells a story that in preparation for the 1984 Olympics, Gable, who weighed sixty pounds less than him, would get on top of him, because he would say that take downs were too hard Gable would win every time, so he was like, “get on top of me, I have got to try and escape.” And Gable would turn him for forty-five minutes straight without letting him up once. This was years after he was done competing. His mental toughness, his drive, was just on a whole other level. He wouldn’t lose.

See the mind is at the forefront of how our body reacts to being physically exhausted, physically tired. The mind is our feedback system, so it makes perfect sense that we need to train our mind and get it used to experiencing this fatigue, being tired, and then it will be able to adapt; so you can control the mind. It’s kind of like the Navy Seal’s training when they are submerged under cold water. They make them lie down on the freezing cold beach until the water just passes over them for hours, to a point where normally most people get hypothermia. But they want them to get used to this feeling so that they don’t panic. And so they make them control the reaction instead of letting the reaction control them.

So Gable now-he’s a motivational speaker now-often tells this story during his speeches about why certain people succeed and why others don’t. And it’s the concept that you’re going to give your mind to a cause regardless of how much pain you will endure. So he says that he was reading the newspaper, and this was like in the 80s/90s, and he said that he was reading about track and field and it talked about a four minute mile. And this well after Bannister broke the four minute mile, but anyway, when he was training in high school in the 60s he said that there were three high school athletes that were running the mile in under four minutes. So he said by this point there had to be hundreds of athletes that have run the four minute mile in the last like thirty years or so. So he is reading this article and it says “no high school athlete in the last thirty-one years has run the four minute mile.” And he got appalled by that. He says, “I’ve been in this wrestling room and putting out champions and so on and so forth, and I’ve been telling them all these things about opportunity. And I’ve been training them and making sure they took advantage of the situation and what’s going on.” And he’s like, “I couldn’t figure it out.” And then he said it started clicking and that “not everybody has been on the same wavelength as me, not everybody was willing to push themselves to this level mentally, not everybody was taking advantage of the opportunities that are put in front of them.”

And so he kept reading the article and it kept talking about this year’s national championship in high school. And it talked about the leader of the race and it had some quotes in there. And it said that the kid was running and he only had about two hundred yards to go, halfway in the last lap, and he could see a big clock that showed his time, and it showed the four minute mile time, and he was two seconds ahead of the four minute mile time. And all of the sudden the quote said, “I looked over my left shoulder, I saw no one. I looked over my right shoulder, and I saw no one. And I knew I could win the race. I knew that I was on the four minute mile track time as well but I said, ‘You know, I am hurting, I could win the race and slow down, or I could win the race and keep the same pace and break the four minute mile.’” And he says, “I think I’ll slow down,” and he ran it in about 4:01 or 4:02.

And Gable says, “When I read that I was so bothered, because again, all my life with the opportunity that was in front of me-based on everybody that I’d been associated with-I took advantage of that opportunity. All my life, in the wrestling room and the University of Iowa, and the Olympic Arenas, I’ve told my athletes and the people that have been associated with me that if there is an opportunity in front of you, you take it.”

This is one of the best examples I’ve heard about the mentality that comes with the very elite. They will endure the pain necessary to become great, to become idolized. Would you beat that four minute mile time? Or are you going to slow down because it hurts? Even if you slow down you might win this race, but are you more prepared for the next one? Did you create your legacy? Did you maximize your potential? Did you seize that opportunity that was in front of you?

See these are just limiting beliefs. I want you go outside and go run right now. I want you to run five miles as fast as you can. And if you don’t think you can do it, do this: run two and a half miles away from your house without a cellphone or money, you will have no choice but to make it back.

And when you run you are going to hear a little voice inside you that tells you to quit, especially when you’re running really fast. It will tell you to stop running because you’ve had enough and you have nothing out there that you need to do this to; you’re not being chased be a lion, you don’t need to hunt. But I want you to fight as hard as you can to shut that voice off. You may be uncomfortable at times but you are not at failure, your body can handle so much more than you ever think. Your mind will try to rationalize why you shouldn’t do it, but your body is so resilient. But you must control your mind and you must learn to shut off that voice to pass the pain barriers if you want to be successful.

Because this voice-like when you are running-will play a huge part in your life forever moving forward. When you’re doing your school work, when you’re working on the computer, when you’re cleaning dishes, we always get a voice that comes in and says, “stop and take a break, we’ve had enough.” When we learn to shut that voice of doubt off when we run or lift weights we can learn to shut that voice off during any activity. Next time when you’re righting your essay you won’t have to take a break after the first page, you’ll knock everything out in one sitting. Because you will be able to shut off that voice that is telling you to quit. See there is two voices that come on; there is one that says “quit, quit, quit,” like we can’t handle this anymore or we need to take a break. And there is another voice that’s really tiny, that says “I can do it, I can do it, I am capable of more.” But it’s smaller.

But imagine two nobs, like volume nobs, on each one. And I want you take this big voice with these fears and doubts and I want you to turn them all the way down. And then this little voice that says you can, turn it all the way up – because you can do it. And the more you practice this, the better you will become at it, till you’re on a level of Dan Gable. If you keep doing it every single day, and you keep shutting down this voice, the easier it will be to fight through those pain barriers. And you will improve your threshold for tolerating pain like those Navy Seals. Things that used to seem hard for you will be a cake walk if keep pushing and you keep suppressing that voice that tells you to quit.

You can handle it. You are more than capable.


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Lead From Behind


People say they want to be a leader, a teacher, a coach, but very few realize leaderships a servant’s role.

To lead, you must stand behind.

A teacher’s ego mind is set aside for a time, while the focus is not on “what’s me” and “what’s mine,” but how my student will succeed even I in time.

To coach with this approach might seem weak but to most, they think leaderships a post to stand, brag and boast.

But I see the coach as a servant… and upmost

To lead, you must stand behind.

I grew strong, ONLY that I might strengthen you.

I faced pain, ONLY that I might show you though, the stuggles, the tussles, the frustration that brew.

The dark red blood through skin which bruised.

I stand behind you because there was a time that I knew, a man pushed me to get through and pursue.

That dream, that goal, that glory which grew, from down in my guts came up with a spew.

He taught me, he coached me, he split me, he broke me. He cried, and he tried and his methods he wrote me.

With his strength he pushed, that my success might ensue. He made me stronger, that I might make YOU.

And now YOU grow stronger, that you might make too.

The next man in line, like a moment in time, will look behind and there he will find.

You who grew strong, with my foot on your back, forcing you to keep your focus on track.

Like I did you, and he did me, the forces of strength grow like family tree.

A fruit does not grow without branch, without trunk, the nourishing soil underfoot, not up front.

To lead is bow. To teach is to grow. To coach is to know. That when the wind blow, the tree unmoved, in the earth it is stuck

And I stand behind YOU to push YOU up front.

YOU get the sun, YOU feel the rain.

And I’ll keep you strong, from behind I’ll remain.


~Poem by Elliott Hulse~

Here’s To You…

Here’s to the tough guy. Here’s to the guy who is going hard to whole time. Whether he’s down by 100 points or ahead by 100 points he’s going hard the whole time; trying to get one more. If he’s ahead by 100, he wants to be ahead by 101. If he’s down by 100, he’s going to close that gap to be down by 99.

Here’s to the guy that despite being tired, despite being behind, despite his coach yelling at him, he finds that one reason to stay in that battle, that one reason to stay in the fire and fight.

Here’s to you, Chael Sonnen.