Ever Tried. Ever Failed.

I had so many dreams of where I wanted to go, who I wanted to be, and what I wanted to do.

You have your own story to tell.

Theater companies I wanted to start with classmates, movies I wanted to be in, directors I wanted to work with, stories I needed to tell.

I packed the life that I knew with socks and a toothbrush into my backpack and I slept on couch, after couch, after couch, after couch at friends apartments in New York until I wore out their rent paying roommates’ welcome.

I didn’t want a “day job” – I was an actor, I was a writer – I had to get a day job. I dusted pianos at a piano store on Ludlow Street for five months. I worked on the property of a Shakespeare Scholar for a year pulling weeds and removing bees nests. I went on unemployment once but not for long, I couldn’t handle the guilt.

Eventually I was able to pay rent for a spot on the floor on the lower East side, but my roommate had a breakdown and disappeared. I helped hang paintings at galleries; paintings that inspire you to think, “I could do that.”

And then, finally, after two years of job and couch surfing, I got a “job”. In application processing. As a data enter-er, at a place called Professional Examination Services. And I stayed for six years – six years.

From the age of twenty-three to twenty-nine; well they loved me there. I was funny. I smoked in the loading docks with the guys from the mail room and we shared how hung over we were. I called in sick almost every Friday because I was out late the night before. I hated that job. And I clung to that job.

Because of that job, I could afford my own place. My dream of running a theater company with my friend and fellow Bennington graduate Ian Bell had died. I had only the one window – I myself could not look out the window, it was quite high. No “acting agent.”

When I was twenty-nine I told myself, “The next acting job I get, no matter what it pays I will from now on, for better or worse, be a working actor.”

But something good happened; I got a low paying theater job in a play called “Imperfect Love,” which led to a film called “Thirteen Moons” with the same writer. Which led to other roles, which led to other roles, and I’ve worked as an actor ever since.

I didn’t know that would happen. At twenty-nine, walking away from data processing, I was terrified. Ten years in a place without heat, six years at a job I was stuck in, maybe I was afraid of change.

Are you?

But this made me very hungry. Literally. I couldn’t be lazy, I couldn’t be. And so at twenty-nine, and at very long last, I was in the company of the actors and writers and directors I had sought at that first year, that first day, after school. I was, I am, by their sides.

Raise the rest of your life to meet you. Don’t search for defining moments because they will never come. The moments that define you have already happened, and they will already happen again. And it passes so quickly – so please, bring eachother along with you.

You, you just get a bit derailed. But soon something starts to happen, trust me, a rhythm sets in. Just try not to wait until like me, you’re twenty-nine before you find it. And if you are thats fine too. Some of us never find it. But you will, I promise you, you are already here. You will find your rhythm or continue the one you have already found.

Don’t wait until they tell you, you are ready. Get in there. Sing.

The world might say you aren’t allowed to yet. I waited a long time out in the world before I gave myself permission to fail. Please, don’t even bother asking. Don’t bother telling the world you are ready. Show it. Do it.

What did Beckett say?

Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try Again. Fail Again. Fail Better.

We burn very brightly, please don’t ever stop. The world is yours. Treat everyone kindly, and light up the night.

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— Transcript made from a video (Are You Scared of Change) made by Mulligan Brothers

 

 

 

Uncomfortable vs Exhaustion

So you want to be successful huh? Well there’s one thing in this world that has the ability to change our whole life in an instant. You know what it is? Its action. So first step, you just need to make a decision.

Ask yourself this, a year from now, five years from now, what are you going to wish you did today? The secret to getting ahead in this world is first getting started. You can’t let fear stand in the way of your dreams. You cannot think “Oh what if this doesn’t work?” If you believe enough in the process and the end result, success is going to come to you. It will. You just got to be willing to see it through to the end. But first you just got to jump in the deep end man; and once something goes into motion it stays in motion. The process itself feeds the fire. You can’t be trapped by fear. Limits like fears, they’re illusions. Disregard them. If you’re passionate about it and you go full throttle, there is no doubt: you are going to be good at it.

Because what makes someone good at something? Its dedication, hard work, and its doing it with the proper direction and methodology. So if you plug away you are going to be good.

But what makes someone a professional at something? Its the concept of taking that little idea, that little decision you make, and executing to take it as far as your imagination holds. Dedicating every breath in your body to that single cause. Seeing the grand picture at the end of the road to be the absolute best. And not settling for any reason. Its not talent, its not innate ability, it simply comes down to how hungry you are.

How hungry are you to improve? How big is your appetite for success? What are you willing to do to reach your dreams?

The professionals, the best at their craft, they don’t care about the naysayers. They don’t care about the fun they are foregoing. They don’t take days off. They are one hundred percent set in their ways in perfecting their craft. Because its all for a much larger purpose than any semblance of happiness that immediate gratification provides. Reaching your goal? Well thats just pure bliss.

The higher the expectations, the larger the goal? Well the feeling just magnifies. So whats the difference between you and them? The professionals, they are the ones who are willing to knock on the doors of complete exhaustion every single day. Now let me define exhaustion for you.

Exhaustion is at that very point where its just so damn painful that you just can’t push anymore. That it hurts so bad that you cannot even think straight. Its in reaching that point when deep down, you know, that you did absolutely everything in your power. That there wasn’t one more thing you  could have done. So whats the difference between them and you?

What are you doing at this present moment in time? Ask yourself this: Are you moving closer towards your goals, or are you moving further away from them? Are you knocking on those doors of exhaustion, or are you just comfortable? You see, being uncomfortable is not exhaustion. Being uncomfortable is your mind quitting before your body. Being uncomfortable is just saying no to trying again. Achieving greatness happens when you are willing to do something that will kill you just to make you better.

You see, its easier to buy the ticket to see the game then it is to be the one to prepare for it. Its easier to hang out with your friends then it is to hang with the stairs for an hour. Its easier to sleep in then it is to wake up to a hundred sprints. Its easier to go to a party then it is to go ass to the grass in squats. Its easier to watch athletes from the couch then it is to be the one hoisting the trophy.

But its also a lot easier to look back on your life and know you gave it your all then it is to live with regrets. Not living up to your potential… Well that weighs on your shoulders for a life time.

No one said that being successful was going to be easy. But I will tell you one thing, it sure as hell is worth it. You are your own maker in your world, and there is no such thing as failure. You just got to tell it, “No. Not this time. Not with me.” I’m going to try again, and again, and again, and I’m going to look failure straight in thew face and I’m going to tell it that I am willing to go through all of the struggles to reach my dreams. Because without struggle there is never going to be any progress. Its all in how bad you want it.

How big is your appetite for success? Do you just want a bite, or are you starving out there for it?

Stay empty. Stay driven. Stay hungry.

–Jaret Grossman–

 

Young King

‘My dreams don’t live down there.’ That’s what my granddad used to tell me .When I used to walk in the projects and look down I’d see crack needles, I’d see bullets, I’d see blood stains – but when I looked to the sky I saw my dreams. I saw my opportunity.

When I would go to school they would tell me I was too dumb. They told me I’d be like my father, like my family; selling dope, going to the penitentiary. Never seeing what the real world would be… See I was a kid that couldn’t read till he was 16, but my dream was bigger than my reality.

I’m telling you Young King, keep fighting because your life depends on it. Just like when you get hit with that bullet, and your boy is telling you “Don’t stop breathing, don’t stop fighting, you still got life to live.” Because if you lay there in your pool of blood you are going to die there.

Young King, Young King learn how to fight for your purpose and not the money. Because I know we come from them crack houses, I know we come from nothing, but listen to that voice inside your head that tells you that you have everything you need inside of you. I’m going to tell you, there is going to be people that say your dream is false. But I’m here to tell you, your dream is real. Your dream is realer than anything you could ever imagine.

You eating those ramen noodles, you eating that trash every night for dinner, but in your mind you are envisioning a state, you’re envisioning the finer things in life. Pay the price today to live the life that you wanted for your family, you wanted for your kids. Give back to the child that you was when you laid on your mother’s lap. Give back to the child when you whispered to your friends and you told them what you wanted to be.

I’m a kid from Pontiac, Michigan, and they said crime was the only thing that we can be. They say the penitentiary is the only thing we will ever see.

Well I’m telling you now King, the best things come from the bottom. Just like when you open up that cereal box as a kid, you couldn’t wait to get that prize at the bottom. Because let me tell you, God leaves you gifts at the bottom of the stairs, and its up to you to walk up the stairs and show the world your gift.

You’re great King. You’re Great.

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The Feeling of Being Stuck on Earth

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It’s hard not to look at the ground as you walk.

To set your sights low, and keep the world spinning, and try to stay grounded wherever you are.

But every so often you remember to look up, and imagine the possibilities.

Dreaming of what’s out there.

Before long, you find yourself grounded once again.

Grounded in the sense of being home bound. Stuck on the planet Earth.

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The more you look to the sky, the more you find yourself back on Earth, confronting certain possibilities.

It’s possible there are other names for our planet, that we will never know.

That there are constellations that feature our sun, from an angle we’ll never get to see.

That there are many other civilizations hidden beyond the veil of time, too far away for their light to ever reach us.

We dream of other worlds, and name them after our old discarded gods, and they seem almost as distant-too far to be seen with the naked eye. Only ever in artist’s renditions. Or a scattering of pixels on a monitor, with the colors tweaked to add a bit of flair.

Even our own neighborhood is impossibly vast. We’re used to showing the planets nested together-because if we drew them to scale, they’d be so far apart, they wouldn’t fit on the same page.

And even our own moon, that seems to hang so close to Earth, but still so far away that all the other planets could fit in the space between them.

It’s possible our spacesuits won’t need treaded boots ever again. That one day soon we’ll tire of wandering and move back home for good.

And we’ll get used to watching our feet as we walk, occasionally stopping to hurl a single probe into the abyss, like a message in a bottle.

Maybe it shouldn’t matter if anyone ever finds it. If nobody’s there to know we once lived here on Earth.

Maybe it should be like skipping a stone across the surface of a lake. It doesn’t matter where it ends up, It just matters that we’re here on the shore. Just trying to have fun and pass the time, and see how far it goes.

 

The Dictionary of Obscure Sorrows

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Swan Song

“It’s not the title that makes you. It’s not the success that makes you. The character, defines the success defines the fame and it starts right there! Championships aren’t won in the theater of the arena, they are won in the thousands of hours in the training room and the labs and the five a.m. runs when its raining and everyone else is sleeping – that’s when its won!”


When you guys find a fear, that fear will

either create you or destroy you. I love

fear. Reason why. behind every fear is the

person you want to be. Fear is self-imposed.

Meaning it doesn’t exist. You create it, you

can destroy it too. Its an intangible. If you

face your fears guys you’ll realize its not

that big.

You go after it and you give it all you have.

If you fail, at least you tried man! ‘I failed,’

is ten times more of a man that someone who

said ‘what if?’ Because ‘what if’ never went

to the arena!

Success guys, is a very, very lonely road

man. Very few people are willing to endure

the pain, the sacrifice, the due diligence to

be successful. Its an uphill battle. And along

that road you’re not going to see too many

friends. You’re going to see your shadow

most often. You got to trust in the heart of

hearts, inside, what you’re doing what you

believe in is a worthy cause, a winnable fight.

See the thing is, for many people they have

tried the same path you’re on – and they failed.

As you walk this journey you’re going to see

carcasses all over the place of people who didn’t

quite have it. That should inspire you because you

got further than that person.

Success – many will love you for it.

The majority will hate you.

Because your success makes them feel

insufficient in their current en devour. It

reminds them of what they could have done,

but they came up short and how they didn’t

revisit it. Or they went out and failed, and failure

is what stood and they never revisited it again.

The difference between a winner and loser.. the

failure is there for some time. Its just the winner

gets back up and does it again, and does it again!

Until it goes his way!

So now you’re down that path and you

are all alone – how do you know you’re

on the right path? How do you know what

you’re doing is in the right direction? If

you’re wondering if you are on the right

path, look at the small things of life. How

do you do them? When you wash your car,

you spend an hour washing your car,

you finish washing,  you put the hoses and

everything away and the brushes. You come

outside to look at the job you did but you

notice some spots missing. What do you do?

Do you re-grab the hoses, pull it all out and do the job right!?

Or do you say, ‘You know, that’s good enough. That’s good enough.’

The thing about good enough is, we don’t know if its enough.

Until the Nth hour, the final hour and everything is on the line!

That’s when we find out if it is enough.

And if we come up short… man doesn’t that suck.

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I promise you guys:

If today you never say, ‘Good enough.’

Tomorrow, you will always have enough.

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“What do you do when no one is watching?

If you do it then, I guarantee you’ll be doing it when everyone is watching.”

Be Yourself: The Story of Your Life

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Sorry, I have to be who I am, everyone else is taken.

Be your-fucking-self!

And if there are people a round who tempt you with non-existence,

blast through that and give them the full glory of who you are.

Do not withhold yourself from the world. Do not piss on the incandescent gift of your existence.

Don’t drown yourself in the petty fog and dustiness of other people’s ancient  superstitions, and unbeliefs, and aggressions, and culture and crap!

No! Be a flare!

We’re all born that way. We’re all born self-expressive.

We’re all born perfectly comfortable with being incredibly inconvenient to our parents.

We shit, we piss, we wake up at night, we throw up on their shoulders, we scream, we cry…

We are, in our essence, in our humanity, perfectly comfortable with inconveniencing others.

That’s how we’re born, that’s how we grow, that’s how we develop.

Well, I choose to retain the ability to inconvenience the irrational.

Do not kill yourself because other people are dead.

Do not follow people into the grave.

Do not atomize yourself because others have shredded themselves into dust for the sake of their fears and their desire to conform with the history of the dead.

Be who you are, if it’s inconvenient to other people,

that’s their goddamn business not yours!

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Quote from: Stefan Molyneux

Be Successful Before You Can Be Successful

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You have to be successful before you can ever be successful. Some of you caught me, some of you didn’t. You have to be successful from within first, before you can ever be successful in terms of the public eye. You can never make a lot of money until your habits are there that dictate you deserve a lot of money. You can never be really ripped until your habits are there that you deserve to be really ripped. It’s the most universal law in physics; every action has an opposite and equal reaction.

So you’re expecting a reaction, but what’s the action? What’s the driving force that is going to produce the result that you want? You have to give with your energy, your effort, your sweat equity. Whatever your material that you posses, you need to leave it out in the environment, create a beneficial foot print in some way shape or form, if you are ever going to receive something.

Michael Jordan used to say that he didn’t compete with other people on the basketball court. If he did he would have never been the person that he eventually became. He used to say that the standard that he set for himself was such a ridiculous standard that no one could ever live up to it. That his work ethic was just in this direction of competing with what he was capable of. Not the today version. Not the yesterday version. Not the tomorrow version. But what he was capable of!

And what you practice during your private time, you will be rewarded for in the public eye. You are capable of so much more than you could ever imagine. Your capabilities and your standards need to be raised in terms of what you are producing today, what you are going to produce tomorrow. That you are going to say to yourself:

I am going to do more in a half hour, I am going to commit more to myself than most people commit during eight hours of work, that I’ll get more done in that time. And then I am going to work ten hours with that pace. And then when I get home I am going to walk the dog – because I have energy that just comes to me, I am capable of that. Then I am going to wash the dishes, then I am going to make my bed, clean my room. Then I am going to read, then I am going to go back to the gym, then every single meal is going to be right. And when I am in the gym, I’m not going to stop when the first sign of lactic acid comes in and I get that fatigue – because that’s a limitation of what I am capable of. That ten reps? I’m not going to set that limitation, I am going to start counting when it hurts. And I am not going to stop until I literally cannot do it anymore.

You need to raise the standard of what you think is acceptable and unacceptable of yourself. What car do you want to drive? Do you want the best or are you ok with mediocre? How much money do you want to make? Do you want to have a really fat cushion, or are you ok just getting by? Are you ok with being fifteen percent body fat? Or do you say to yourself, ‘there is not going to be a day that goes by that I don’t look at my abs – and I need to improve every single day?’

That’s a standard. And you’re capable of something that you can not even fathom – that you can’t imagine. But you need to be successful on the inside – with your habits, with your rituals, with your routine. And give your energy throughout every single opportunity that you’re presented throughout all twenty-four hours. That you are not going to say that ‘I can’t do this.” Because that’s a limitation of what you’re capable of. You’re not going to say that ‘I am tired, that I need to rest,’ but you’re going to say ‘I am going to do this. And I am going to do it to the best of my ability and I am going to do it until I can’t do it anymore. And then I am going to gain the muscle so that tomorrow it is going to be easier to do it, it’s not going to be harder.’

Compete with what you are capable of. Not the people who you surround yourself by. Not with who you were yesterday. Not with who you are today. But with what you are capable of. And then it is just a matter of time before you are going to be a legend.

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Transcript created from a video by: MuscleProdigyTV

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